In the short article titled Cultivating a Godly Child by John MacArthur, MacArthur outlines nine behaviors that provoke and discourage children to frustration:

1. Over-protection: not allowing them to develop independence and take risks
2. Favoritism: comparing siblings results in resentment
3. Overemphasizing achievement: don’t always find something to complain about, such that they’re never good enough for you or measure up to your standards
4. Overindulgence: Don’t give them everything they want
5. Discouragement: Don’t constantly criticize them and destroy their initiative
6. Not making personal sacrifices: Don’t leaving them on their own to do everything rather than making time to help and support them
7. Not understanding their limitations: Understand their capabilities by age and expect mistakes and failures.  Look for progress rather than perfection
8. Neglect: Be involved in their lives
9. Physical or verbal abuse: Do not be sarcastic with them or use your strength against them